Living in fight-or-flight was exhausting.
Unfucking my coparenting changed that.
If you’ve tried coparenting with a toxic, narcissistic, high-conflict ex, you know exactly how fucked it can feel. Unfuck Your Coparenting won’t fix your ex, but it will teach you how to stop revolving around their chaos.
Who the FUCK is Livi?
If you ask my ex, I’m the spawn of Satan.
The real story is simpler: I married the wrong person, and it took me over a decade to realize it.
I spent years trying to make my toxic marriage work. I read all the books, went to workshops, and even attended couples therapy by myself when he refused to go. All I accomplished was bending myself into a people-pleasing pretzel.
One day, I stumbled across a YouTube video about covert narcissism. My world turned upside down in that moment as I realized ‘holy fuck, this is my life.’
I dove headfirst into studying narcissistic abuse, high-conflict divorce, and trauma recovery. My sanity and my kids' stability depended on it.
During my multi-year divorce, I learned to:
plan like a strategist
document and show up in court like a lawyer
parent with someone who treats coparenting like hostage negotiation
I survived, took notes, and built a guide so others don’t have to waste years of their lives being dismantled by someone who thrives on chaos.
I’m not a therapist. I’m not a lawyer. I’m the woman who walked through the fire, mapped the exits, and came back with a playbook.
That's what UNFUCKYour Coparenting is built on.
UNFUCK Your Coparenting is about creating peace from the inside out — one plan, one boundary, and one calm response at a time.
This is not feel-good coaching.
Over the years, I’ve learned a few things that guide how I work with parents in high-conflict situations.
Family court, mediation, and most traditional coparenting advice are built on assumptions of goodwill, mutual accountability, and emotional symmetry. In high-conflict dynamics, those assumptions fail — and continuing to operate as if they don’t just keeps people stuck.
We also live in a culture that stigmatizes divorce and pressures people to stay in unhealthy relationships. That’s bullshit — and it does real harm.
Staying in a toxic relationship teaches children to tolerate mistreatment. Leaving breaks that cycle.
Children need stability and emotional safety — not chaos dressed up as commitment — and they learn what healthy relationships look like from the ones we model.
Divorce isn’t a moral failure.
Sometimes it’s the courage to leave something unhealthy — and sometimes it’s the resilience to rebuild after someone else does.
You don’t have to put your life on hold.
You deserve happiness, whatever that looks like for you. Date when you’re ready, even if the paperwork isn’t finished or swear off dating for years, there is no right way to move on.
Traditional coparenting doesn’t work in every situation.
Parallel parenting focuses on what children actually need: stability, predictability, and emotional safety in at least one home.
And finally — this isn’t about “winning.”
It’s about setting boundaries, stepping out of the chaos, and building the peaceful life you and your kids deserve.
You’re allowed to be happy.
Having a life outside of your kids doesn't mean you're an absent parent; it means you are recovering emotionally so you can be a present parent when you do have the kids.
High-conflict personalities follow predictable patterns.
Once you learn how those patterns work, you can stop reacting to every provocation and start acting with intention.
The UNFUCK Framework
This is the framework I use to help parents reduce chaos, reclaim their energy, and stop living in constant reaction mode — for good.
When we work together, we start by identifying what's causing the most chaos right now. We focus on that, not fixing everything. Not chasing perfection. And definitely not trying to change someone who doesn’t want to change.
Next, we get clear on what parallel parenting actually is.
It's a behavioral system, not a mindset shift. We change what you do first, so that your nervous system can finally calm down.
Parallel parenting is not:
Changing your coparent
Punishing your coparent
Improving your relationship with your coparent
With that understanding, we build your parallel parenting system with these three pillars:
Structure
You get a clear path forward. My rules, scripts, and templates keep your communication short, factual, and consolidated. No open-ended questions. No defending. No explaining.
Containment
We remove your ex’s emotional access to you. That means fewer entry points for chaos and fewer opportunities for escalation. No ambiguity. No artificial urgency. Just drama-free communication.
Emotional Regulation
This isn’t about “staying calm.” It’s about real, lasting steadiness. You’ll learn how to recognize your triggers and use concrete tools to stop spiraling every time they reach out.
We finish by defining what success actually looks like for you. Not how cooperative they become — but how little space they occupy in your mental and emotional life.
They won’t change. You don’t need them to.
This is how we UNFUCK your coparenting.
“I learned how to stop reacting, how to set boundaries without escalating things, and how to recognize how my ex used guilt as leverage. Liv helped me rebuild confidence in myself and really feel that I am a good dad.”
-C., California Dad
Ready to stop reacting and start living again?
Let’s build the strategy that gets you there — let’s UNFUCK your coparenting.