Living in fight-or-flight was exhausting.
UNFUCKING my coparenting changed that.
If you’ve tried coparenting with a toxic, narcissistic, high-conflict ex, you know exactly how fucked it can feel. Unfuck Your Coparenting won’t fix your ex, but it will teach you how to stop revolving around their chaos.
Who the FUCK is Livi?
If you ask my ex, I’m the spawn of Satan.
The real story is simpler: I married the wrong person, and it took me over a decade to realize it.
I spent years trying to make my toxic marriage work. I read all the books, went to workshops, and even attended couples therapy by myself when he refused to go. All I accomplished was bending myself into a people-pleasing pretzel.
One day, I stumbled across a YouTube video about covert narcissism. My world turned upside down in that moment as I realized ‘holy fuck, this is my life.’
I dove headfirst into studying narcissistic abuse, high-conflict divorce, and trauma recovery. My sanity and my kids' stability depended on it.
During my multi-year divorce, I learned to:
plan like a strategist
document and show up in court like a lawyer
parent with someone who treats coparenting like hostage negotiation
I survived, took notes, and built a guide so others don’t have to waste years of their lives being dismantled by someone who thrives on chaos.
I’m not a therapist. I’m not a lawyer. I’m the woman who walked through the fire, mapped the exits, and came back with a playbook.
That's what UNFUCKYour Coparenting is built on.
UNFUCK Your Coparenting is about creating peace from the inside out — one plan, one boundary, and one calm response at a time.
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The UNFUCK Framework
This is the framework I use to help parents reduce chaos, reclaim their energy, and stop living in constant reaction mode — for good.
When we work together, we start by identifying what's causing the most chaos right now. We focus on that, not fixing everything. Not chasing perfection. And definitely not trying to change someone who doesn’t want to change.
Next, we get clear on what parallel parenting actually is.
It's a behavioral system, not a mindset shift. We change what you do first, so that your nervous system can finally calm down.
Parallel parenting is not:
Changing your coparent
Punishing your coparent
Improving your relationship with your coparent
With that understanding, we build your parallel parenting system with these three pillars:
Structure
You get a clear path forward. My rules, scripts, and templates keep your communication short, factual, and consolidated. No open-ended questions. No defending. No explaining.
Containment
We remove your ex’s emotional access to you. That means fewer entry points for chaos and fewer opportunities for escalation. No ambiguity. No artificial urgency. Just drama-free communication.
Emotional Regulation
This isn’t about “staying calm.” It’s about real, lasting steadiness. You’ll learn how to recognize your triggers and use concrete tools to stop spiraling every time they reach out.
We finish by defining what success actually looks like for you. Not how cooperative they become — but how little space they occupy in your mental and emotional life.
They won’t change. You don’t need them to.
This is how we UNFUCK your coparenting.
This is not feel-good coaching.
Over the years, I’ve learned a few things that guide how I work with parents in high-conflict situations.
Family court, mediation, and most traditional coparenting advice are built on assumptions of goodwill, mutual accountability, and emotional symmetry. In high-conflict dynamics, those assumptions fail — and continuing to operate as if they don’t just keeps people stuck.
We also live in a culture that stigmatizes divorce and pressures people to stay in unhealthy relationships. That’s bullshit — and it does real harm.
Booking FAQs
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Parallel Parenting Intensive - 12 session course with on going message support,
Parenting Plan Reviews - Full review of your parenting plan to identify common pitfalls and the most chaotic pain points and build in real boundaries to protect you, your kids, and your sanity.
Weekly Support - Need support without committing to a full program? Book a one-off Unfuck Call to troubleshoot a specific coparenting issue, get strategy around a difficult situation, or talk through the chaos with someone who actually gets high-conflict dynamics.
Check out a full list of services and payment plans here.
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Getting started is simple. Check out the packages and services and book right on the website.
Not sure what service is the best fit? Book an intro call and we will figure out what is the best fit together.
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Unfuck Your Co-Parenting isn't built on theory—it's built on surviving and navigating real high-conflict co-parenting. Instead of telling you how to communicate better with someone who doesn't play fair, I help you stop wasting energy trying to control them and start focusing on the things that actually move the needle.
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You can book an Intro Call. I’ll listen to what’s going on and help you choose the option that makes the most sense for where you are right now.
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My program is designed to help you stabilize, set boundaries, and stop living in constant reaction mode.
If you’re not sure if this is for where you are right now, an Intro Call will help you decide without pressure.
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Most clients notice a shift within the first few weeks. As you implement the tools, your coparent’s chaos stops controlling you — even when they don’t change.
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Divorce and coparenting with a high conflict person can drain you mentally, emotionally, and financially. I offer a variety of payment options to meet your financial realities.
Check them out here.
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It’s a fair question. High-conflict dynamics drain your time, energy, and emotional bandwidth. Coaching gives you tools and structure that reduce chaos now — and keep working long after the sessions end.
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You’ll get a confirmation email and a short intake form. It gives me context so we’re not wasting time on the basics during your first call. Answer it honestly — not perfectly. We’ll handle the rest together.
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Yes. Your coparent will still be a toxic narcissistic whatever-the-fuck ex when the intensive ends — that doesn’t magically change.
If you want continued support, you can book individual sessions as needed. Some clients use them weekly for a while; others book occasional check-ins months apart. You stay in control of what support looks like.
- O., New York Mom
“I can’t tell you how much your coaching has meant to me. I have let go of so much anxiety, guilt, and struggle. I don’t even recognize the person that I was when we started working together.”
Who I Work With
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Yes. High-conflict relationships and coparenting dynamics are traumatic. Therapy helps you process and heal from what happened, while coaching focuses on immediate deployable strategies — building the systems and boundaries that help you function effectively going forward.
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No. I am not a lawyer and cannot give legal advice (and yes, my lawyer makes me say that). I can help you organize your concerns, prepare for conversations with your attorney, and develop questions — but all legal decisions should always be made with a qualified legal professional in your jurisdiction.
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No. In fact, most of my clients have already spent years trying to communicate better, explain themselves more clearly, compromise harder, or find common ground. High-conflict co-parenting isn't usually a communication problem—it's a reality problem. I don't help you negotiate with someone who has no interest in a healthy co-parenting relationship. I help you stop wasting energy on what you can't control and build strategies around what you can.
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Absolutely. I work with anyone navigating a toxic, high-conflict coparenting dynamic — including dads, step-parents, and blended families.
High-conflict dynamics don’t discriminate, and no one deserves to be gaslit into thinking they’re the problem.
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Sometimes. While I don't do traditional couples coaching, I do work with healthy parents and their partners when high-conflict co-parenting is putting strain on the relationship. Your partner didn't sign up for your ex's chaos, but they're living with the fallout. I help couples navigate triggers, boundaries, and how to work as a team without letting the high-conflict co-parent take over the relationship.
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This will happen. And when it does, it usually means you did something right. High-conflict personalities escalate when they start losing control.
Escalation is expected, planned for, and worked through inside this framework, so it doesn’t pull you back into panic or reactivity.r where you are right now.
Ready to stop reacting and start living again?
Let’s build the strategy that gets you there — let’s UNFUCK your coparenting.